One of the best things I do for my kids is write them a book for their fifth birthday. I wrote one for Ainsley when she turned five, Ainsley, Perfect You and this week I gave Zack his, Incredible Zacktastic.
I want them to know who they are, where they came from and also, who I want them to be. I don’t want all the media they ingest to be from outside sources – television, internet games, cell phones and the Wii. I want to have some control over their media and I want them to know who they are, not who the media tells them to be. I feel like these books help carry them through childhood, builds their identities and makes them feel important.
Ainsley has had her book for four-and-a-half years now and we pull it out and read it when something scary or hard is happening. Bullying, friend trouble, first days of school, first trip away from home come to mind. When she gets critical of herself, I ask her, Wait, have you forgotten who you are? Should we read the book to remember?
I really feel it’s helped her appreciate her positive attributes, skills and talents. It’s a book – it’s authoritative. It carries weight.
Every person, not just every child, wants to know things like, Where did I come from? Where do I fit in? Who am I? Who am I supposed to be? Am I loved? Am I good enough? What should I do with my life? Am I awesome? What do people expect of me? Writing a book for your kids gives you an opportunity to answer those questions from your perspective.
Nearly every online photo company will allow you to write your kids their own books for $35-$50. Buy several, they make fantastic Mother’s Day and Father’s Day gifts for the grandparents. Also, buy one for yourself. You’re not going to want to let your kids walk out the door with them when they leave home.
Tracee Sioux is a Law of Attraction Coach at www.traceesioux.com. She is the author of Love Distortion: Belle, Battered Codependent and Other Love Stories. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.