I came across an article, “An Unmarried Woman,” in a borrowed Elle Magazine by Rebecca Traister.
Evidently, women have turned their noses up at marriage. At least according to the conservative right. The column is all about how women are “choosing not to get married.” You know, because we suddenly hate men. They’ve become superfluous. (The article quotes a bunch of right wing politicians and pundits calling the unmarried mother a bunch of really mean names.) Seems they think women don’t want to be married to a nice, sexy, stand up man. Which is strange, because just about every woman I know would adore being married to a sweet, funny, hot guy — all the better if he’s the father of their children.
Except these same women are also willing to leave if he’s emotionally abusive or disconnected, if he’s a addict, if he beats her, if he steps out on her, if he gambles away all the money, if he’s commitment phobic, if he lets his personal hygiene slip below that of an orangutan or if he’s crazy selfish. To be fair, these women will put up with a hell of a lot of these behaviors before they finally do leave the father of their children.
Sure, there are women who visit the sperm bank and buy some $29.99 sperm. But, that’s after they’ve dated a lot of “not so Mr. Rights” and they’ve run out of trial and error time. Or they are lesbian and would love to be married; but these same pro-marriage conservatives won’t let them.
Here are the stats: the median age for a woman’s first marriage is 26.5, compared to the previous norm of it being 20 to 22; A recent Pew report says that “barely half of Americans 18 and older are married;” and over half of all births to women under 30 are to unmarried women; one-third of all teenage girls become pregnant before 19-years-old; the divorce rate hovers just below 50 percent.
Well conservatives are just up in arms about this problem women are committing on society, so sayeth this Elle column. Maybe these conservatives could learn a few things from the Law of Attraction and relationships.
This rise in Immaculate Conception is astounding, don’t you think?
Tracee Sioux is a Law of Attraction Coach at www.traceesioux.com. She is the author of Love Distortion: Belle, Battered Codependent and Other Love Stories. Contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org.