by Tracee Sioux
Last Thursday I saw an Oprah on The Secret, a new DVD, and I had it overnighted for a party I was throwing. It changed everything for me.
The Secret is the law of attraction.
If I focus my thoughts on good things, then good things will happen in my life. If I focus on negative things, well, then negative things will happen in my life. The people on the video, people who live by The Secret, guarantee that if you live your life accepting this law of the universe then you can have anything you want.
I have heard the principles included in The Secret all my life.
Ask and ye shall receive, seek and ye shall find, knock and the door shall be opened.
Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us. Ephesians 3:20
The key for me is two-fold:
I am allowed to WANT things for my self and my family. At first glance the video seemed very focused on things: cars, houses, bikes, etc. But, I think that’s because it is tangible and easily documented. And I’ve always been told and had this guilt about wanting nice things for myself or my family.
Does it make me selfish to want a big beautiful home where my family feels cozy and happy to spend time there? Does it make me selfish to want a really nice beautiful car that gets me from point A to B with class and style?
For many years we’ve been asking, “God, just give us just enough to make it and pay our bills.” And that is exactly what he’s been giving us. Just enough and no more. Well, now I’m asking for abundance in everything!
According to The Secret, it does not make me selfish to want these things, nor does it make me selfish to actively pursue them because these things are available to everyone. All they have to do is have the faith that God will bless them with them.
This is key for me. If there Is enough to go around and there is no principle of lack or limitation in the world then I do not have to be ashamed of myself for taking these things from anyone else. If they want these things, they too can have them. How freeing is that? For me, quite freeing!
What’s most amazing to me is that what I want was right there. It didn’t take me two days to know the truth about what I’ve always wanted deep in my heart. It was beyond simple to write several pages in my journal about what I REALLY want my life to look like. I’ve always wanted primarily the same things, I just believed it was selfish to want it, believed if I got it someone else would have to go without, believed that I would face disappointment if I allowed myself to want it. I didn’t really feel that I was worthier than anyone else, now I realize that EVERYONE is worthy, including myself.
My new year’s resolution was to control my thoughts and emotions better. This was before I knew The Secret. I was reading The Seven Habits of Highly Successful People and realized I was constantly focusing on what was outside my own circle of concern – things that I can’t change. And worse, I was focusing on what I didn’t want for others. For instance, I spent quite a bit of time focusing on my mother-in-law’s pain. According to The Secret focusing on her pain created more pain for her. What I should have done and will now start doing is focusing on comfort and peace and feelings of physical pleasure for her, thus helping her to create more of that.
I’ve been a negative thinker for most of my life – thinking about what I don’t want instead of what I do want.
This is a bizarro example: I left all my journals and letters and memorabilia and souvenirs and photographs and negatives in my cousin’s basement in Connecticut three years ago when we left New York. I often thought about my stuff, wanting to send for it and never having the money to ship it back to me. But, I was also kind of afraid of it, like it might bring back some of the terribleness of some of my past experiences, so I never made sure there was enough money to get it back. When I thought about this stuff I would always think of a flood in her basement, like I was warding off a flood. Like, oh I hope there is never a flood that will destroy my stuff in her basement. So, today I pop on my email and there are all these forwarded emails from my cousin. So I email her and ask about my stuff.
For real, there was a flood that destroyed all the papers from my past, all of it.
According to The Secret what I should have done is visualize all my stuff safe and sound and cozy in her basement. But, then I wouldn’t be completely and totally freed from my past would I?
What I truly want is to be a hugely successful writer, helping women empower themselves and their daughters. I truly want a family that is so stinking happy and affectionate all the time that we make people crave it. I want a marriage that’s passionate and affectionate. I want a big beautiful home and a fantastic car and I want money that comes frequently and easily so I am empowered to give lots of it away to others who need it.
It feels so good to me to just be allowed to want this stuff.
And just watch, I know I’m going to get it. For God has given me this word personally,
Neglect not the gift that is in thee, which was given thee by prophecy, with the laying on of hands by the presbytery.
Meditate upon these things, give thyself wholly to them; that they profiting may appear to all.
Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them: for in doing this thou shalt both save thyself, and them that hear thee. I Timothy 4:14-16
Buy The Secret – you’ll be glad you did.
Read The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen R. Covey.