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Mother-Daughter Relationship

Is there a more complicated relationship than the mother-daughter relationship? Criss-crossing between generations, clashing over the drastically-changing cultural expectations taking place over the last three generations, and always battling…

The Curse of the Good Girl

Perfect, perfect, perfect! Why are we trying to be so perfect and demanding this odd-sort of perfection from our daughters? The Curse of the Good Girl: Raising Authentic Girls with Courage and Confidence by Rachel Simmons asks. This book…

Ariel - The Little Mute

My daughter, like every five-year-old girl loves the Disney Princesses. I mean, we can't really walk through any store without seeing clothing, dolls, books, backpacks, flash cards, puzzles, games, dress up clothes, videos, bed spreads or…
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Self-Loathing Sin Bank

Vacation Rerunby Tracee SiouxI am going to put a self-loathing sin piggy-bank (pardon the pun) on my kitchen table.Naomi Wolf has a great quote which is taped on my bathroom mirror, "The mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance vaccinates…
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My Face/Her Face

by Tracee Sioux I am deeply struck by this photograph which I found on About Face, a non-profit company which combats negative images of women in the media. Without taking a right or wrong stance about plastic surgery, this photograph of a mother…

Belle - Battered Codependent

By now no one will be surprised when I say that I’m not a huge fan of Belle from Beauty and the Beast. Some might see Belle as a redeeming character because she is smart and loves to read. She is, after all, bright enough to tell Gaston, the…
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Inevitable Arguing

I heard about a mother who believes mothers should pick one thing to intentionally argue with their daughters about. She chose clothes. If her daughter liked a shirt she would scrunch up her nose and call it too short. If her daughter said…
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Sibling Envy

The only cure for sentiments like this is extra attention. So, I put aside my own need to lie in bed with a book all day on Sunday and took her to town where we went window shopping. Left Zack with Daddy. What do you do when your kids get…
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Empowering Girls: Criticize Daughters' DNA

A mother who radiates self-love and self-acceptance vaccinates her daughter against low self-esteem. Naomi Wolf The reverse is also true. Divorce expert M. Gary Neuman says the worst thing any parent can do to their child is to criticize…
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Empowering Girls: Dutch Blitz Has Body Issues

Dutch Blitz has some body image issues. She used to be a size 15 and she still feels unacceptably fat sometimes, though the scale and the tag in her clothes tell her she's not. I know this because I've read her very honest and poignant blogs…

Empowering Girls: Mommy/Daughter Day Report

You're always ignoring me. It's inappropriate. It hurts my feelings and it makes me sad and mad. You should listen to me when I talk to you, Ainsley informed me during our Mommy/Daughter Day on Saturday. You're right. I'm sorry. You have a…
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Empowering Girls: I Would Pick You

If I were picking daughters off the shelf I would pick you Ainsley. If I were picking Mommies of the shelf I would pick you Mommy. (Idea taken from Growing a Girl: Seven Strategies for Raising a Strong, Spirited Daughter)