Soccer Season Over

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Soccer season is over.

Ainsley played on a local church league this year. No scoring, no winning, only one team to play against.

I think we’ll consider putting her in a competitive league next year. I see no point in pretending not to keep score. Our team knew we lost every single game.

Why do we keep insisting children are stupid or not paying attention? Why do we attempt to teach them the wrong lessons? We live in a Capitalist Society – if you think winning isn’t important here – YOU haven’t been paying attention.
Winning IS important and we should teach them how to try their best to WIN.

I did not coach because I think she is less inhibited and shy and has more fun without me there. Coaching my own kid was quite frustrating for me.

Soccer is MY favorite sport for girls because there is lots of actual exercise (unlike baseball with it’s endless waiting) and it’s gender neutral.

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Also, I think Ainsley has an aptitude for it.

She says she wants to try gymnastics over the winter instead of going back to Taekwando. I’ll let her if it isn’t cost prohibitive.

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3 replies
  1. Whirlwind says:

    My girls all love soccer. But your right about coaching – I coached my youngest daughter’s team this fall and she didn’t focus as much as I think she would have with a different coach.

    And about keeping store – we play Rec so they “don’t keep score” either but the kids know! I was talking to Meenies coach the other day and he mentioned about how he felt bad they didn’t win a game all season (last season 1/2 the same team and they won every game – however they were one of the oldest teams in that level – they moved up a level so now they are one of the youngest teams so it makes sense). I told him not to worry as long as they were having fun (which they were).

  2. Lynnie says:

    I think that in sports like soccer it is really obvious that there is one side winning, even if you don’t keep score. Kids feel good when they make a goal. They feel bad when they miss. You’re right, you can’t expect the kids not to know.

    In this case, it’s more important to teach them that they didn’t win because they’re inherently better people, but because they learned certain skills, tried hard, worked together, etc. And you can teach them how to win/lose gracefully.

    On the other hand there are some great cooperative games kids can play that were devised so that there really are no winners and losers. When I was teaching our gym teacher used them a lot. Terry Orlick wrote a book with loads of them, and many of them require lots of running. When I was in college we actually used to get together outside and play them! Now, honestly, I don’t know if I could run around quite that much!

  3. Tracee says:

    Winning doesn’t teach kids they are “inherently better people” it teaches them that they are better soccer players when they run faster and try harder.

    I’ll tell you what was evident between who lost and who won – the girls who like to run and were used to exercising won. You could tell some of these girls hate running and never do it.

    If you’re going to play sports at all then it’s important to learn to run faster and try harder. That’s the whole point – to improve.

    I’m fine with Ainsley losing every game. She tried harder and ran faster every game because she hated the losing.

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